B-bye Guilt, Hello Goddess

Drop the guilt. Be the goddess.

Guilt.  Mama guilt.  Wife guilt.  Whatever kind of guilt you got — let’s let it go!  Let’s encourage each other to drop the guilt.  We can be awfully, awfully hard on ourselves.  Our “Oh I did a bad thing” or “I should be doing such and such” or “A good…… (mom, friend, wife) does such and such” can quiiiiickly turn in to “I’m bad.”  Then we’ve got shame.  Guilt and shame — touch combo.  They paralyze us.  They get us believing a story that takes us far away from our original, natural state: our tender, confident, bold, soft, powerful, loving, compassionate heart.  Call it being “Christ-like” or being a “Bodhisattva” or embodying “Shakti”– our natural state is one of believing in our goodness and acting with compassion for ourselves and each other.

Ok, so how we do drop the guilt and embrace the goddess?

First, encourage each other! Encourage your fellow goddess.  When you notice your friend is caught in the illusion of guilt and shame and is “going down that path…fast,” look her in the eyes, place a hand on her arm, and tenderly say to her, “Friend, I see you.  And I see your light.” Smile at her!  Smile at her goodness…and her goddess.

When you wake up and notice you are “shoulding” all over yourself, in that moment of awareness, put your hand over your own beautiful, tender, powerful heart and say, “Ahhhh, sweet love.  I see you.  I see your light.”

Try it.  See what happens.  Right now!  You softened – didn’t you?  Even if you felt silly – you probably laughed.  You lightened up.  Maybe you even started to ask the question, “So what would it look like for me to embrace my goddess instead of my guilt?  What does ‘being a goddess’ look like for me?”

B-bye guilt.  Hello to our light.  Our tender, powerful, creative, sweet, compassionate goddess.

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Anne
    Mar 24, 2012 @ 08:54:32

    LOVE this, Lis! YES!! Sometimes guilt can be not only paralyzing, but isolating as well. I find myself being sucked into the ole’ story of “the good wife” and I forget that I am not the only one who nurtures my husband and kiddos. Your reminder to drop the guilt is an invitation to take care of myself, and let others nurture me every once in a while. Even Goddesses need that:)


  2. barefootlisa
    Mar 24, 2012 @ 20:32:56

    Anne, I was going to write about how guilt isolates us and how having compassion brings us back into “connection” — with ourselves and others. We connect w/ others who maybe be suffering as we are. You are so right! And YES — EVEN GODDESSES need to take care of ourselves!


  3. barefootlisa
    May 19, 2012 @ 14:27:37

    Reblogged this on Gems of Delight and commented:

    Reposting for all you goddesses out there!


  4. nikky44
    May 20, 2012 @ 16:52:59

    Very beautiful post Lisa!!!


  5. Zakyia S. Watkins
    May 21, 2012 @ 03:21:20

    YES!!! Another wonderful post, Lis!!! Thank you!!!


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