Guilt. Mama guilt. Wife guilt. Whatever kind of guilt you got — let’s let it go! Let’s encourage each other to drop the guilt. We can be awfully, awfully hard on ourselves. Our “Oh I did a bad thing” or “I should be doing such and such” or “A good…… (mom, friend, wife) does such and such” can quiiiiickly turn in to “I’m bad.” Then we’ve got shame. Guilt and shame — touch combo. They paralyze us. They get us believing a story that takes us far away from our original, natural state: our tender, confident, bold, soft, powerful, loving, compassionate heart. Call it being “Christ-like” or being a “Bodhisattva” or embodying “Shakti”– our natural state is one of believing in our goodness and acting with compassion for ourselves and each other.
Ok, so how we do drop the guilt and embrace the goddess?
First, encourage each other! Encourage your fellow goddess. When you notice your friend is caught in the illusion of guilt and shame and is “going down that path…fast,” look her in the eyes, place a hand on her arm, and tenderly say to her, “Friend, I see you. And I see your light.” Smile at her! Smile at her goodness…and her goddess.
When you wake up and notice you are “shoulding” all over yourself, in that moment of awareness, put your hand over your own beautiful, tender, powerful heart and say, “Ahhhh, sweet love. I see you. I see your light.”
Try it. See what happens. Right now! You softened – didn’t you? Even if you felt silly – you probably laughed. You lightened up. Maybe you even started to ask the question, “So what would it look like for me to embrace my goddess instead of my guilt? What does ‘being a goddess’ look like for me?”
B-bye guilt. Hello to our light. Our tender, powerful, creative, sweet, compassionate goddess.